And if I am only for myself, what am I? 

Saturday January 21, 2017

He “is” lazy, arrogant, always late, irresponsible, unreliable, or ________.

She “is” a procrastinator, poor writer, a weak communicator, a__________.

Do you see a problem with the above statements? When you use “is” statements, you look for evidence to show that your judgment is correct.

For example, you know someone who usually shows up late. But even when he arrives on time, you are more likely to notice the times he ran late to reinforce your prior conclusion that he is "always" late.

It's difficult to see someone differently, once you decide that he “is” _______.

You've put him in an "is" box.

Contrary to what you might think, people have enormous capacity to change. By eliminating judgement and replacing it with an "is"-less attitude, you are giving them a precious gift, the opportunity to change.

I would love to have a loving, caring, genuine, loyal, relationship with my son, mother, and siblings.

I am going thru heavy depression. Have been alone for 14 yrs. I want to pray for love, companionship. Why can't i be loved.......I am a good person with a very big heart, I just want to find love and live the rest of my life sharing. I am a good Christian. Thank you for all prayers.

for a dear friend my friend is in deep mental and emotional pain. she is close to giving up and needs new medication and therapist. Her faith has slipped and needs prayers to keep up her faith in God, to feel His love and security. thank you.