The Song of Songs, which is for Solomon. If only he would give me some of his kisses. Oh, your loving is sweeter than
wine. Your fragrance is sweet; your very name is perfume. That’s why the young women love you. Take me along with you; let’s run!
Song of Solomon 1:1-5
Scripturally, the Song of Songs is unique in its celebration of intimate love. It gives the voices of two lovers, praising each other, yearning for each other, proffering invitations to enjoy. It's
rather surprising to think that a sexy essay on love made it to the scriptures.
Or is it?
There are no secrets from God. He is all-knowing. And you dream of love. You desire pleasure. Describing physical pleasure and mutual adoration is a message we can relate to.
What does the
Song of Solomon have to do with singles?
God's creatures work best in twos. When Noah was instructed to load the ark in pairs, there was intention behind the commandment. Yet, so many of us are single, or one half of a broken whole. The Song of Songs expresses a longing of the heart.
Longing is aspiration and aspiration is hope. The
hope of a single person is uniquely precious. It's a hope that can not be easily shared except in prayer. Complaining about your oneness sounds bitter, it makes other people uncomfortable.
Here's what you can learn.
There’s something to look forward to. There's someone looking for you too. Our Maker has a grand plan and love is boldly scripted in your destiny. You need to
be properly excited about it, and sufficiently patient while waiting. You need to be confident and assertive so you can meet new people without hesitation.
The Song of Songs is as close as you'll get to a Godly preview of the pleasure you'll feel with the right partner.
Judge not.
God loves you, flaws and
all. He sees your beauty. The Song of Solomon is a tribute to beauty. Do the same - pay tribute to the beautiful beings you meet every day. No judgement. Be a lover of kindness, be a giver of compliments.
Sure you're fussy. But make sure you're open to friendships from all different directions. Your soulmate may come from a place you do not recognize. Remember, there is only one universal standard
that counts: Respect. Respect for you, respect for others, and respect for God. If you meet someone who has that quality, take a second look.
Do not despair.
You meet someone. They're special. You are special together. Then the weeks or years start to roll by. You entered into the relationship with expectation only to realize you didn't find your happily ever after, after all.
The thrill of your romance faded away. Reality set in and it's ugly. You're facing a new beginning, not the end of the world. Get over it and get on with it.
What it is and what it's not.
The message from the Song of Solomon can be your guide to finding a significant other by voicing your longing and inspiring hope. It can
also be a metaphor for the love of God to His people.
It's up to you to read into it what you want for your life. Be gentle with yourself, there is no "sin" in being single, only a song yet to be sung.
