When my son was murdered
there are 2 responses that stand out the most for me. One was the most sincere “I’m sorry, so very sorry.” I have ever heard in my life. That response came from someone that I had a strained relationship with, but I knew she meant it and I will never forget it. To this day, 15 years later I still remember how her voice sounded and it still brings me comfort.
The second was when I called a friend to tell her
and she hung up on me. Yep, she hung up as soon as I got the words out of my mouth. A half hour later I was still sitting there in disbelief. I thought she was my best friend, how could she just hang up on me? Then my front door opened and in she walked with an overnight bag, a box of Kleenex and said “I’m here, I got this.” She stayed for a week, she listened to me rant and scream, rocked me like a baby when I cried harder than I ever cried before.
She answered the phone, cleaned my house, forced me into the shower when I didn’t want to move. She comforted my sisters, my nieces, made us laugh when she was teaching my 1 yr old niece to Cha-Cha, she held my daughters up when I couldn’t.
- Deborah Kyger Wheeler
