Prayables | goodness inside and out

Published: Tue, 10/01/24

Updated: Tue, 10/01/24

Tuesday October 1, 2024

Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the Hand of God.
Minnie Louise Haskins

O God of the Lunar Light reflect Your mercies upon me. Cast my gaze upon the many miracles, the joy sustained, the hallelujah of the midnight sky. My slumbering soul is unaware. I walk in beauty, made lovely by a billion nightlights, surrounded by blessings and grace. How have I become unnoticing? What great pain has rendered me unaware, dazed? Lift me, shake
me, toss me out into the wonder. I am so small, so gratefully small. You are the context. I am beholden. Teach me to exclaim, to proclaim, to abide the quiet and embrace the grandeur faithfully. To say and shout and sing Your holy praises. Hallelujah. by Karyn Kedar

Psalm 27:4 One thing I ask from You Lord, one thing I seek. That I might dwell in Your house all the days of my life, attend to Your sanctuary and forever gaze upon Your beauty.

Work on your inner work. The work that keeps your soul productive and your spirit excited. The work of your day job, family responsibilities, and all the activities that keep you busy, are all important. But don’t neglect your inward focus. May God bless you with goodness, inside and out.

A MARRIAGE EXPERT HAS SOMETHING TO SAY

Did your spouse or partner tell you, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you?”

What does that even mean?

When someone says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” they are making a distinction between two different feelings. But neither of those feelings are love.

When a person says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” they’re saying: “I care about you but I’m not excited about you.”

Caring about someone is a good thing, but it’s different than love.

You can care about starving children, but you don’t know them and can’t really love them.

Being excited about someone is also a good thing, but it too, is different than love.

You might be excited to know a celebrity, but it doesn’t mean you love that person.

When someone says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” they are confused about what love really is. They are expressing themselves poorly. They are missing the point.

And that’s how marital problems arise.

Love is action. Love is a God given blessing. Love is not simply a physiological feeling. It’s the deeds you do for one another. It’s being a friend, protector, and confidant. It’s intimacy and sharing thoughts, hopes and fears. It’s shared experiences within your family. It’s being nice and kind.

Want a change?

Start by listing a few ways in the last week that you’ve demonstrated your love for your spouse. Note the things they do for you.

Next, sit down with your spouse or partner and discuss without judgement. Acknowledge that you understand what they are feeling. Suggest that their pronouncement just may be a cop-out for the real dilemma they are facing: they are struggling to commit to an honest relationship that has highs and lows.

The reality is all relationships are fluid not static. Your spouse or partner is looking to your relationship to get them high on a constant basis. Addiction in any form is exhausting and terrifying.

Take a step back. Be patient. Be smart. You can turn this around by changing your reaction.

Stop channelling hurt. Rise above the circumstances. Reflect on what you can do, not what your spouse or partner should do.

Understanding the problem is key to fixing the problem.

May God bless you as you do your very best to work things out.

inspired by the writings of marriage expert Mort Fertel

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